What Image Are You Projecting
Gary Simpson
I want you to think about something for a few
moments. Do you have any perception about what
sort of image you are projecting? I’m talking
about the personal or professional image that
you are presenting to the rest of the world. When
we perceive others we do it through four of our
five senses:
- Sight
- Sound
- Smell
- Touch
The fifth sense, "taste", we will set aside because
it is irrelevant to this subject. But we will include
an intangible quality, a "sixth sense", so to speak,
which we will identify as "something extra". What
I refer to here is that vague notion we get about
somebody which we are unable to quantify. It is
an all-round subconscious combination of everything
else that we perceive about the person. We have
all felt it. We all project it. It’s the thing we
speak of when we say or think the words:
- I feel as though I can trust this person"
or
- "I think I feel safe in this person's presence"
or
- "it seems as though I have known this person
a long time" or
- "I just don’t feel comfortable when he (or
she) is around" or
- "this person makes my skin crawl."
Call it gut feeling, animal instinct, intuition
or whatever you want. We all possess it and we
all project it. Some are more receptive at what
comes in and others can mask what goes out. But
there are signals. So let's examine each of the
above attributes briefly to see what sort of "persona"
or image you are projecting for others to "read".
1 – Sight. What do you see when you look
in the mirror? What do you look like? Not everybody
has movie star looks or a perfect athlete’s body.
However, we should all be making the most of what
we have got. There is simply no excuse for an
unkempt appearance. Are you a man who only shaves
every second or third day? If so, why? Are you
a woman who has unruly hair? It has been proven
that people judge you mostly by what they see.
If you make a poor initial visual presentation
then you have to rely on everything else to work
overtime to overcome it. Consider this. Think
about your lawyer, accountant, doctor or any other
"professional" person. When you first met that
person how did they present? Were they well groomed
and in fine clothes? Almost certainly they were.
Now, every time we see that person we judge them
by that first presentation appearance. You may
see your accountant one weekend down at the hardware
store in his or her grubbiest work clothes – but
you still have that image of them in their professional
attire. Let’s reverse that. Let’s assume that
you bump into that person in the hardware store,
you strike up a conversation, during which, they
reveal to you that they are an accountant. But
you see them in their filthy weekend work gear.
Is it convincing? You decide to visit them at
their usual place of work at a later date. Hey
presto! Out comes this person looking very professional.
Is your mind in conflict? The point I am making
is this – the first impression is the lasting
impression. When you see somebody for the first
time and they are professionally attired, that
is the way you invariably categorise that person
from that point on – even if a subsequent meeting
shows them wearing lesser clothing. It just doesn’t
work in reverse. My point is – if you want to
project a certain image – dress for that image.
But that is not to say that you need to wear your
best clothes all the time when you are away from
your work. The above example was just to illustrate
my point.
2 – Sound. What words do you use? Do
you speak appropriately and knowledgeably for
your profession. Are you prone to "um" and "er"
your way through conversations? Do you think before
you speak? Is your verbal language sprinkled or
even littered with profanities or expletives?
Gutter language is a sure way to lose customers
and clients. So are sarcasm, racial prejudism,
sexual connotation, rudeness, ignorance, criticism
and a host of other poor language traits. Do you
revise and edit your written language in letters
or emails before you send them – particularly
when you are in conflict with a person or corporation?
Do you screen your writing for blatant errors
or possible misunderstandings? Being pleasant
but firm creates a much better environment for
resolution than a harsh and angry tone. Do you
wait before you send your mail and revisit your
words before posting? Do you put yourself in the
position of the receiver of the correspondence?
3 – Smell. A tough subject to deal with.
I will be blunt. Do you smell? Many people have
deficient nasal receptors. Their sense of smell
is either diminished or non-existent. Often such
people can reek of offensive body odour simply
because they are unaware of it themselves. Some
people have heightened nasal receptors. Their
sense of smell can be so sensitive that all sorts
of odours cause them discomfort. Therefore, if
you are a man who drowns himself in after-shave
you might save yourself a lot of money by being
less liberal with it. Similarly, women who walk
down a corridor and leave a trail of perfume in
their wake might also like to follow this advice.
A hint of after-shave or perfume can be refreshing.
A miasma of it can be just the reverse.
4 - Touch. In today's society you had
better be aware that excessive touching and feeling
is completely unacceptable. If in doubt, you should
offer and accept your hand in a hand-shake only.
Many people find it very offensive when personal
contact is made. If you are in the habit of giving
people a hug just make sure that the "hugee" is
amenable to the hug from the "hugger". All of
the above add up to what can be described as a
"general personal aura". You can send and receive
these auras. They form part of that unquantifiable
quality that we know of as the "sixth sense."
Be aware that many of the subjects that I have
described above can be modified to suit specific
locations, customs, beliefs and relationships.
There is no universal law. Awareness and common
sense are the key. There are several books, which
go into great detail on these matters. One such
book is "Body Language" by Allan Pease.
If you have any difficulty locating this book
you can always request it by its unique code (ISBN
0 9593658 0 X).This is an excellent reference
source on many non-verbal gestures. It certainly
makes for interesting reading.
By being aware of the signals that we send out
when we deal with other people we can improve
the way we interact with them. These are skills
which can be learned and they can greatly increase
our results in personal and business relationships.
These skills are important because the greatest
element in personal contact with your clients
and customers is communication. Poor interpersonal
skills will eventually cause a breakdown in confidence
which will manifest itself in declining sales.
The most successful people in any business are
always the communicators. If you are an employee
and you want your salary to increase, work on
your communication skills. If you are a business
owner and you want your turnover to increase,
work on your own communication skills first then
show all your employees how to do the same. The
image that you project in the marketplace will
directly affect your "bottom line". Think about
it. What image are you projecting?
About the author: Gary Simpson is the
Course Co-ordinator for the "Life, Journey, Destiny
- Personal Development Home Study Course" and
the author of "How to Stop Wasting Your Life and
Start Getting What You Want". His email address
is budo@iinet.net.au. The website containing
this article and others is located at Motivation & Self Esteem for Success.
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